Relational Intelligence and the Illusion of a Fixed Self One of the quiet myths we carry is that we are a fixed self who simply shows up the same way everywhere. In reality, who we are emerges in relationship . You may feel confident, expressive, and grounded with one person — and guarded, hesitant, or overly accommodating with another. You may speak freely in one room and carefully edit yourself in another. This isn’t inconsistency. It’s relational context. When we talk about relational...

Most organisations don’t struggle because people lack skills. They struggle because something in the relationships  isn’t working. You can have smart people, good intentions, clear policies, and endless training — and still feel like the same tensions keep repeating. I was once asked to deliver a conflict management training to a company. Recently, a customer had verbally and physically threatened a staff member. The team was shaken. Emotions were high. People were angry, scared, and...

Why avoiding conversations about burnout, trauma, and psychological risk might be the most dangerous leadership strategy of all. Let’s be...